Twenty first Century Kids Love

What are you little children doing here? I saw these two kids, a girl and a boy of 5 or 6, holding their trousers and trying to fasten in a hurry as I suddenly opened the door of the toilet. They replied nothing but shyly giggled and ran out of the door. This scene created thousands of thoughts in my head. What were those kids doing inside the toilet putting their pants off? Were they sharing kids’ love? Why were they playing in a private place? What game were they playing inside a 3X3 closed toilet with the doors closed? What made them do such an activity? And many more…Not sure what exactly the two little kids were doing but I want to relate this story with the teenage love of this age. A girl of around 16 was pregnant for 35 weeks. She didn’t even share this information with her parents. Suddenly when their parents came to know about her pregnancy they had no idea what to do except panic. Investigation begun. The girl revealed the truth. According to her, The boy liked the girl. Approached her via her friend. Dated her for a couple of days. Finally, after having sex for the first time the boy disappeared. Became contactless. Leaving everyone suffering after 7 months. This is just one example of 21st-century love. Like this, I have heard and seen a couple of dozen cases in Nepal as well as in India where amateur girls got aborted and carved scars for lifetimes. Well, I have no objection to the kids for making their teenage love. One can make as many as one can but the point is are the kids able to cope with the level of tension created due to the amateur relationship they have created? Do their relationships create peace of mind or complications? What mental and psychological effects are they going through? Are our kids getting proper counseling in their school? Do the guardians give good care to their children? How is sex education taken and given to our children? Being a father of a son I am highly concerned about this matter. I am concerned for the future of today’s kids. Kids nowadays are more concerned about friends and relationships rather than their studies and homework. Very few children are focused on their work and career. Also being a social worker I would like to convey a message to all the teachers, caretakers, guardians, and parents to accept the responsibility of their students and children and give them proper care. Be open. Talk to them. Make a friendly environment. Try to reveal their secrets. In order to make a balanced life for our children, periodic counseling is required. What is happening in the children’s life? Like physical health, we also need to take care of the children’s mental health and psychological status. Physical health problems can be cured easily by medical treatment but psychological issues are often complicated and maybe too expensive. Hence, as a teacher and guardians, it is our responsibility to keep track of our children’s activities. By continuously monitoring their behavior and habits we will be able to help them build a healthy careers. And hence a better world.

Good luck. Happy parenting.

Heart Surgery – Part 2

Dear friends, I underwent critical heart surgery last week. Yes, it was a tough time for me to cope with every moment of the 10 days inside the care unit. I have a very distinct and peculiar experience of the surgical procedure that I am so keen to blog and I would love to share this wonderful experience. 

Heart ♥ Surgery! you might be wondering what kind of heart surgery was it that I am so keen to share with. This surgery doesn’t take tools like knives and scissors to cut my heart and take off the diseases out but the breath. Yes, the only breath tool to pierce my heart, cut the sections and fix the disorders. Here the doctor is me and relied only upon the guidance provided by the teacher. Confused right? Dear friends, I was suffering from the most common diseases around the world happening in this modern era originated from the cravings that caused full of harmful energies ruling my body and mind that tangled uncountable knots inside my heart and was becoming too heavy to carry along.

This procedure of surgery or the heart purifying technique is called Vipassana. I went my first 10 days Vipassana Meditation course 10 years ago in July 2010 at Dharmasringa, Kathmandu. I have already shared that experience by writing on my blog. If you like to read that post before continuing this you can find it here. Also before proceeding further I would like to briefly discuss what Vipassana is. Vipassana, meaning to see things as they really are, is one of India’s most ancient techniques of meditation. It was taught in India more than 2500 years ago as a universal remedy for universal ills, i.e., an Art of Living. The technique of Vipassana Meditation is taught at ten-day residential courses during which participants learn the basics of the method, and practice sufficiently to experience its beneficial results. There are no charges for the courses – not even to cover the cost of food and accommodation. All expenses are met by donations from people who, having completed a course and experienced the benefits of Vipassana, wish to give others the opportunity to also benefit.

Background 

It was the month of July of the year 2010 when I learned the Vipassana Meditation technique for the first time. Like my other life events, this too was sudden, completely unplanned. It’s been ten years now and two things are still crystal clear in my head. The first thing that I laughed like I went crazy, I could not stop for almost a dozen of minutes, for a joke created by a meditator friend with the assistant teacher and the second that the tears rolled down my eyes for I went too emotional, why wasn’t I introduced with such teachings earlier. Why then? 

After 10 years in the first week of September, this time too I went to take the ten days course at sudden but this time at Dhamma Janani, Lumbini. For 10 years in between many ups and ups came into my life. I practiced Vipassana almost daily because it was diluted in my blood and there is no other way to get rid of it. This time I neither cried nor laughed but achieved a higher level of expertise. But how? Imagine a parrot in a cage when freed in the open sky, like a fish in an aquarium when left in the ocean. Yes, it was similar kind of feeling I experienced this time. Like I was free from the extreme burden. Like the entire knots that were tied one by one as the past deeds, got untied in 10 days. Like my stoned heavy heart transformed to feather light. Like it was successful heart surgery. Like I got a new life, a rejuvenated and pure one. 

Day 0 – Registration & Introduction day 

This is the day when people from different parts of the world come together to become a saint for 10 days at the Vipassana Meditation Centre leaving the material world, friends and families behind. Like other people, I too was excited enough on this day as if I was attending the course for the first time. During and after the registration process at 1 pm we introduced with each other and had a friendly conversations with other students. After breakfast in the evening, we were reminded of the rules and regulations basically the Pancha Sila – the five precepts in the mini Hall and begged for the knowledge with the teacher for the meditation technique in the main hall. 

The struggling minutes 

The level of curiosity on day 1 is the highest as everyone is very keen to learn a completely new thing in their life. This is for the new students. As I was an old one I had a different high feeling. I was given the first row of the entire members very near to the teacher’s seat in the main hall and a private room to practice, the meditation cell (शुन्यगार). Well, the first day goes off very soon by learning and practicing the Samadhi – the breathing technique. On day 2 and day 3 the curiosity curve falls sharp down and the impatience level increases high for them who overlooked & over expected what Vipassana was. Because it becomes difficult moment by moment to resist the silence and the pain coming out of the body due to prolonged single position seat. People start breaking the noble silence and begin murmuring with others. The frequency of changing the body position goes up and many starts to stay outside the main hall. The rest follow the track very patiently by learning and practicing the Samadhi technique. It was not that easy for me too in the beginning because it was already 10 years when I made my first attempt. The old students are given only two times to eat in a day. The morning breakfast at 6:30 am and the afternoon lunch at 11 am. The lack of evening meal was killing me and my stomach. The day 4- the teaching of the Vipassana technique also called Pragya– seeing the sensation as they are in every single part of the body, which gave a new hope as the story added a new chapter and the curiosity graph slightly rose up. 

The adhisthan – Strong determination 

It looks very easy and simple to see students sitting in a position without a move with a completely straight back and head for hours. Every day at 8 am-9 am, 2:30 pm-3:30 pm and 6 pm-7 pm we have to follow the adhisthan meaning strong determination. Here one has to make a strong decision to sit down in one position without moving the hands, leg and body for an hour. These hours were the most difficult and dangerous times for newcomers. Initially for two days, I had forgotten about the adhisthan. On the third day when I read the rules in detail, I suddenly realized. The same day from 6 pm-7 pm onwards I kept the promise and I was able to successfully follow the adhisthan rule. By the evening of day 4 we had learned the Vipassana technique of meditation. Most people used to think that they get rid of the samadhi technique from day 4 but it is not like that the Vipassana technique is directly dependent on the samadhi. The more good they are at samadhi the better they will perform in Vipassana. 

The miracle moments 

On day 6 during the one to one combined meditation with the teacher, he asked about the progress of Vipassana. I explained to him in a brief way but the detailed follow like this: On day 4 in the evening as soon as I started learning the Vipassana technique every part of my body started shivering one by one. This was not the first time I practiced this technique, I practiced Vipassana for 10 years but I never felt such intense sensation before. My entire body had continuous vibrations. The more I focused the clearer was the sensation. Slowly the vibration started causing a better feeling. Even outside the meditation hall, my whole body was experiencing vibrations and good feelings. The next day during the morning sitting I started to feel better. Though surprised, every moment was a wonderful experience. During the morning adhisthan the first free flow of my second Vipassana course occurred. It remained for more than 5 minutes. This sensation was more intensive than I used to have earlier. Till then every pain in my body was being converted into a good feeling. As soon as I felt the pain sensation in my legs and back it didn’t hurt but caused a better sensation and a free flow. My heart started to feel lighter and lighter. This is how I wish to die, I wished, I murmured. From 9 am to 11am group sitting the same day I went to the meditation cell to practice. In a few minutes, I felt another free flow from the top of the head to the tip of the toe. This was even more intense than that of the first one. The intense sensation was not bearable. The whole body was experiencing waves like ripple effects from the top to the bottom and filled with immense pleasure. Suddenly I felt like I could not resist this pleasure and broke into a huge laughter. I went crazy. I could not stop. I came out of the cell immediately and took a break for 5 minutes. Pleasure, pleasure, and pleasure everywhere in my whole body, every little part of my body was experiencing tremendous pleasure. Like all sadness was gone. Like no cravings anymore nor any suffering. Only pleasure. Only pleasure. During the afternoon practice session in the main hall on the same day just after the lunch break, I ejaculated due to continuous pleasure. Do you believe? Yes, it happened. I instantly left my seat, headed towards my room and took a shower. After returning back I went to the meditation cell for practice. The pleasure feeling was still remaining but gross and mild. I continued practicing. This was miraculous day 5. Did I enter into the next level of Vipassana Meditation? I asked myself. 

When the teacher heard this story he asked me how many times I completed 10 days Vipassana course. When I told him this was my second one after 10 years then he appraised me telling that I did the good practice. It was a proud moment for me. 

Similarly, on the 6th and 7th day I continually practiced Vipassana almost every moment and I experienced the most intensive sensation throughout my body I ever felt before. I also felt like I had no sorrow or pain then. Every physical pain used to convert into a beautiful experience. I could sit for hours meditating. I even felt deep sensation while walking, eating, sitting, sleeping, or even hearing the sound of the bell and the voice of the teacher. I felt no fear when insects were crawling throughout my body. Instead, their crawl on the surface of the skin brought sensation and sometimes caused free flow. All sensation either gross or intense used to make my heart feel lighter. Like the knots inside my heart getting unwinded one by one. The knots of old cravings. Making my heart cleaner and pure. Getting healed moment by moment. Amazing. 

Day 8 reminded me of my family as there were only two days remaining for practice. The thoughts in my head made me feel disturbed and distracted. I used to manage the distraction but the sensation was gross then. The more the thoughts the grosser was the sensation. The free flow was still felt but after longer periods when the intense sensation was felt. 

The friendship day 

A new excitement was there on day 9 as the alarm for day 10 had already been rung. Day 9 passed away by making the plans for day 10. Day 10 was the friendship day. After keeping my mouth shut up for complete 9 days I broke the noble silence on the last day. Like mine everyone’s face had a wonderful big smile and their heart filled with glory and joy. Greetings and wishes. Small groups were formed and gossips went unstoppable. The first topic of the discussion was the 9 days of meditation experience. And the rest their own. There was a video show, book show and donation program on this day. 

Day 11 – The exit day 

After the morning meditation and breakfast on day 11, I washed the bed sheet and pillow cover. I returned home after clearing. 

Conclusion 

It is very difficult to make people understand who have never practiced Vipassana what exactly it is by explaining its process. Vipassana can only be understood when practically done and experienced. There are some terms like Panchsheel, Samadhi, Pragya, adhisthan, free flow, equanimity, etc which are completely practical terms that might be difficult to get. One should take at least 10 days of Vipassana Meditation course to experience life. Many people misunderstand about Vipassana and relate it with different caste and religion. But the one who has practiced it without expectations has benefitted the most. Those people have known the true meaning of life – The Art of Living. The true dhamma. 

The core objective of this article is not only to share my experience but also to motivate people so that more and more people can learn this knowledge and take advantage of the Vipassana practice. I have talked about sensation many times here. One might wonder how the only sensation in the body can heal one’s heart-“chitta” and soul. People might wonder but it’s true that every single emotion that a person feels causes sensation in one or more parts of our body. This is it, Vipassana teaches us to see those sensations as they are. By not reacting on it, by letting it just like it. But the perfect equanimity should be maintained. Equanimity is the tool to measure the progress of Vipassana. This is how by the continuous practice of Vipassana one can rule over their own mind. Either sad times or the happiest moments. 

Very soon I will be having my third 10 days Vipassana Meditation course in the near future. 

Let all beings be happy, let all beings be liberated, let all beings be peaceful and harmony, let all beings share my merits.

सबैको भलो होस्, सबै को कल्याण होस्।
सबका भला हो, सबका कल्याण हो।

Valentine 2007

10 years from now, I was a final year engineering student at Kathmandu University, Dhulikhel, Nepal. This was our last winter vacation at KU and I along with some of my friends had planned to stay at the college. We passed time by working on our academic projects, watching movies, learning guitar & drums. The objective was to enjoy the final moments there at fullest. That we didn’t miss.

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We climbed the roof of the bus to travel our way.

It was 11th of Feb, 2007 in the evening after dinner when we suddenly decided to visit Charikot in order to enjoy snow fall. It didn’t take time to bag-pack and we left early next morning. Full of excitement and enthusiasm we had. I remember we climbed the roof of the bus to travel our way.

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We could see the range of the Himalayas, feel the chilled weather but the snow was far away to reach

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Valentine 2007

In the search for snow fall we reached the place but were saddened by the drought encountered. We could see the range of the Himalayas, felt the chilled weather but the snow was far away to reach. We went on asking people where we can find snow nearby but the replies from them made us feel down. They told us to visit places near Jiri to experience snow fall. We had lesser cash and lacked time, hence we stayed in the middle, passed the night there & enjoyed the beautiful range of Himalayas from the distant.

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We enjoyed the beautiful range of Himalayas from the distant.

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We clicked group pics.

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Valentine 2007

After wasting a complete day in the search for snow, the next morning we left for KU. On the way we sang songs, cracked jokes, clicked group pics. We chose our ultimate goal and that was to celebrate and enjoy.

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We jumped over our feet.

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We posed.

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We played and played and played with the snow.

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Happiness had crossed its limit.

On our way back, we saw a hill covered with snow. We were delighted to see the scene. Let’s climb the hill, one of my friend giggled. All of us mourned for a moment then shouted yes, lets do it. Immediately, we asked the conductor to stop the bus and started to climb the mountain.

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We played until we got exhausted.

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I could not believe myself, finally I did it.

Ah! wow! gracious! I touched the snow for the first time in my life. Not only me, everyone of us screamed, jumped over our feet. Touched it, felt it, very light, cool, soft, powdered fluff. There wasn’t any limit to our happiness. Our dream came true. Finally, we did it. We played and played and played with the stale snow.

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We played with the snowman too.

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We took rest. We were exhausted.

We did all the things that people do in the televisions and movies. We enjoyed until our excitement faded. However, we achieved our destiny. Before it was too late we planned to return back. We climbed down the hill, we caught a bus and returned back to the source.

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Valentine 2007

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We climbed down the hill, we caught a bus and returned back to the source

The story hasn’t come to an end. It was a full of surprise when we experienced the fresh snow falling the next morning. It was 14th of Feb, 2007. It did after 60 years. All the people came out of  their houses. To touch it, to feel it, to experience it, the white powdered fluff. Everyone had a smile on their face, full of joy.

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Valentine 2007 – Saaga

Valentine 2007
Valentine 2007 – Saaga

Valentine 2007
Valentine 2007 – Saaga

Valentine 2007
Valentine 2007 – Saaga

Valentine 2007
Valentine 2007 – Saaga

I felt like the God listened to us, our prayer. God appeared in front of us. I celebrated my Valentine 2007 with the nature of God.

10 years has been passed. I feel like it was yesterday. All I can have now are the only memories of the past. All I can do now is to feel nostalgic. I am getting jealous of myself. I wish I could bring back my days.

Thank you, you all are God for us!

“Delicious smell of the fish curry”, murmured the e-rickshaw driver. He added, “it’s navaratan time. It was my turn beside him to speak on, one of my favorite topic. Instantly I replied, who cares, nobody can stop him who eats. I appended, God, most people don’t believe. Do you, my brother? Yes, I believe he whispered. Why do you believe God, brother? God has given me what I have.

Don’t know why but I always turn offensive when the topic arises on God. I can’t resist myself to give my views on it. I believe and always convey to all that God is null and void. It is nothing but an entity created by human being.

Well brother, but all the things that you have are the fruits that you have earned through your hard labor. I don’t think that God has given you a single thing, did he? I follow because all people follow. And hence I go to temple too. He puts his example, if you are good and people starts to believe and follow you then I must also follow you.

I replied with a mild giggle and falsified his example. My friend that is not always true, he fell quite which assessed that he got confused or determined. I continued, God is created by us and hence we wrote about him in books “Ved and Puran” thus people started to promote it and people who feared started to believe on God.

A complete silence was there until I reached my destination. I de-boarded, paid the charges and spelled my last words. Brother, thank you, you all are God for us. I looked at his innocent face then there I found not more than a decent smile.

I believe that there is only one God for me, the Humanity and we should worship what humanity serves. I mean to say there is God within us, in you, in me and within every human being. We should learn to find out God there, the existing Supremo as we see him in the stones of the temples. Thus, by respecting, caring and loving each other we can make this world more beautiful, wonderful and peaceful.

 

Spring MVC 4 and Simple Ajax Call

To understand this tutorial, I assume that you are already aware with Spring MVC and how it works. I will demonstrate here a simple Ajax call in Spring MVC where form data are posted and sent to the controller. The output of the ajax call is plain string text.

Step 1: Create Form

Step 2: Add Ajax Script

Step 3: Create Spring MVC Controller

Step 4: Create Model

Step 1 & 2 : Create Form & Add Ajax Script

Screenshots:

Screen 1: Loading the form and filling information

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Screen 2: Displaying data after clicking on submit

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Create a jsp file with name studentForm.jsp and add the following code:

<%@taglib uri=”http://www.springframework.org/tags/form” prefix=”form”%>
<html>
<head>
<title>Spring MVC Form Handling</title>
</head>
<body>

<h2>Student Information</h2>
<form:form id=”form” method=”POST” action=”addStudent.htm” >
<table>
<tr>
<td><form:label path=”name”>Name</form:label></td>
<td><form:input path=”name” /></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><form:label path=”age”>Age</form:label></td>
<td><form:input path=”age” /></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><form:label path=”id”>id</form:label></td>
<td><form:input path=”id” /></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td colspan=”2″>
<input type=”submit” value=”Submit” id=”submitButton” />
</td>
</tr>
</table>
</form:form>

<div id=”result”>
</div>

<script src=”https://ajax.googleapis.com/ajax/libs/jquery/1.12.4/jquery.min.js”> </script>
<script>
$(function(){

$(“#form”).submit(function(){

formData = $(“#form”).serialize();
alert(formData);
$.ajax({
type: “POST”,
url: “addStudent.htm”,
data : formData,
success : function(callback){
alert(callback);
$(“#result”).html(callback);
},
error : function(){
$(“#result”).html(“Error!”);
}
});

return false;
});
});
</script>

</body>
</html>

 

Step 3: Create Spring Controller

Create a java file with name studentController.java and add the following code:
package com.StudentController;
import org.springframework.stereotype.Controller;
import org.springframework.ui.ModelMap;
import org.springframework.web.bind.annotation.ModelAttribute;
import org.springframework.web.bind.annotation.RequestMapping;
import org.springframework.web.bind.annotation.RequestMethod;
import org.springframework.web.bind.annotation.ResponseBody;
import org.springframework.web.servlet.ModelAndView;
//import org.springframework.web.portlet.ModelAndView;
@Controller
public class StudentController {
@RequestMapping(value = “/student”, method = RequestMethod.GET)
public ModelAndView student() {
return new ModelAndView(“studentForm”, “command”, new Student());
}

@RequestMapping(value = “/addStudent”, method = RequestMethod.POST)
public @ResponseBody String addStudent(@ModelAttribute(“SpringWeb”)Student student) {

String studentStr = “{name:”+student.getName()+”,age:”+student.getAge()+”,id:”+student.getId()+”}”;

return studentStr;
}

}

 

The first method in the controller loads the form and the later one is executed when the submit button is clicked.

Step 4: Create Model

In this step data binding takes place which helps to bind the form data and transact via the controller. You must have already done this step while implementing spring custom controller. Create file Student.java and paste the following code:
package com.StudentController;

public class Student {
private Integer age;
private String name;
private Integer id;

public void setAge(Integer age) {
this.age = age;
}
public Integer getAge() {
return age;
}

public void setName(String name) {
this.name = name;
}
public String getName() {
return name;
}

public void setId(Integer id) {
this.id = id;
}
public Integer getId() {
return id;
}
}

Finally, run the project and call the student form by typing localhost:8080/project_name/student at the address bar of your browser. Fill some data into the form fields and there your are.

 

 

Window number 9

It was unfortunate to hear from the officer, ‘well, then take them in 15 days’. The initial question was : Sir, when should i come to collect my certificates? He uttered, come after 25 days. 25 days, I exclaimed! That’s too long, can you plz make it in 7 days, it’s extremely urgent. A potential pause was there, he took a long breathe eyes closed, feels like he got a feeling an internal annoy. He controls himself and responds politely: show me your letter of urgency and I will attach it with your application. He added, everybody claims urgent, everybody is in hurry to go abroad. I mourned. He proceeds, “Well, take them in 15 days”. Ok sir, I left the window.

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Was not in mood to argue rather put a couple of questions to myself. What exactly are the days that take to print and attest copy of certificates? Why did he reduce the days from 25 to 15 not 25 to 10 or 7 ? The later question arose because 10 days ago I applied for my two other certificates at the same place but different windows. The officer at window no 4 asked me to come after 25 days and after bargain he reduced directly to 7 days. The second one  at window no 10 also repeated the same number of days, 25 but after bargain he replied to come after 10 days.
I managed to collect both the documents after 10 days but today’s incident at window number 9, public dealing building, Delhi University made me feel different and asked myself why need bargain, why not an exact day 7, 10, 15, or 25? I am in a huge state of dillemma. Why reputed institutions like DU employs such stupid staffs?

The story is not over my friends, I went to collect my transcripts after 15 days at window no 9, the same officer checks his folder but finds no entry for my files and says to come on Monday next week. Disappointing,  I said: u called me in 10 12 days though I came after 15 days, sir plz do something. I have come here just for my certificates from Nepal and it’s already a month I am staying here. I lied. He gave me his personal no and asked me to call at 2pm the same day. At 2 pm I made him a call but he denied and conveyed that the transcript has not been printed yet. He asked me to come on Monday and promised me to deliver on that day.

It was so nice of the guy that he makes me a call on Monday and made me remember of my certificates but unfortunately I was out of station that day so I conveyed him to come on Wednesday. I felt sorry for calling him a stupid couple of days ago.

Anyway, I went there on Thursday, I reached at 10 o clock , guess what, all the windows were open except the concerned one. There were few other people waiting at window no 9 regarding concerns on Transcript. We asked the guards and staffs that when will the officer at 9 will arrive, they told that they have informed the officer and he will soon reach to his seat. Some guys had to submit the form so their files were accepted at window 7 but in order to collect we had to wait till the window opens. My bad luck. I called the officer to whom I submitted my application form but he told he was on leave and asked me to wait till 9 opens. 11 o clock and still it was closed. A madam at 7 prepared a gate pass and asked two of us to contact a higher concerned officer. We headed towards the office but on the way I received an urgent call and had to attend it. Hence, I waited outside at the gate and two of them went inside. After half an hour one comes out along with her degree and asks me to go inside to collect mine but I was not allowed to enter because I hadn’t a gate pass. My bad luck again.

I went immediately to fetch a pass to window 7 but what I saw was 9 was already opened, I felt a bit relieved and thought that things would be done this time. Unfortunately, when I showed my receipt to the new officer, he was not able to find my entry in his register and asked me to wait for another week. Gosh, My another bad luck, uff. I conveyed him that I have already talked with the previous officer but he wasn’t ready to do anything saying that he is new and he knows nothing.

After waiting for almost 15 minutes I made a call to the previous officer where he asked me to visit Mr. X at room 205. I took a pass from 7 and proceeded towards 205. I met Mr. X but he asked me to talk with Mrs. Y at G12 as she was the concerned one. No way I immediately proceeded there but the old lady was away from her desk. A lady with red top arrived who claimed herself from UK also applied for transcripts. She added, it had been a month but not yet received. We talked for a while regarding the issue when the old lady entered her cabin. We requested her to check our problem, she flipped some documents then humbly answered, “I haven’t received ur documents guys”. Then we insisted her to sort our problem, she visits different desks and searched for our documents . After some hit n trial she was able to find my one but unfortunately they were not signed and she asked me to come on Wednesday of next week. I got no option except leaving and simply headed towards my office. While leaving I asked the reason behind the delay which was the sort of staffs.

I went to DU again on 21st of June, Tuesday and finally was able to receive my required documents. This is how reputed institution in India works. “Ram Bharose“.

 

Think once before you utter the word “Bhaiya”

You dont have right to call me bhaiya. Please mind your language when you speak next time” was the spontaneous response when he was trying to submit his application to window no. 2.

The dark guy entered into the hall and asked a ball pen with me to write an application. As soon as he finished with it, he headed towards the window no 2 and spoke something in a gentle nepali voice. Few conversation occured between this guy and the officer. Suddenly, the guy got fired and then the above scene triggered.

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The nepali officer looked old, thin and his hair turned blakish grey but he talked only in hindi. He was not able to speak in Nepali, may be due to prolonged stay in India. However, It is unfortunate to call a young man bhaiya by an elder person and i too feel ridiculed in such situations.

That was an appropriate punch to that man at a perfect time. I know the old man didnt mean to hurt the guys sentiment and was polite enough while talking but this time was not right. The time has completely changed its face and the meaning of bhaiya has taken a new turn. The word has become so common and is over looked now and it conveys the sense of racism. Not only in Nepal but the trend is also taking pace in entire india calling bihari bhaiya.

No, we dont have any right to call anyone a bhaiya just for he is dark in color or he pulls a rickshaw or he sells vegies n fruits  on Thellas.  Let us respect ourselves and preserve humanity. No one has become superior by making someone feel inferior, our greatness is indicated by our attitude and Karma. Bhaiya is a word to call our elder brother with respect, let us not change it’s meaning. Let us think once before uttering this word. Let us not be a part of Racism voluntarily or involuntarily.

विपस्सना की पहली अनुभूति

सन २०१० के जुलाई महीने में मैं सम्मर वेकेशन मनाने काठमांडू गया। वर्ल्ड कप का नशा हर व्यक्ति में छाया हुआ था। फाइनल देखने के लिए दोस्त के रूम पर बियर के बोतल खुली और वर्ल्ड कप ख़तम होने के बाद घर लौटने की तैयारी करी|

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1 महीने की छुट्टी अभी शेष थी, दिन कैसे बिताउ समझ में नहीं आ रहा था। अचानक दिमाग में कुछ आया, मार्टिन को कॉल करके आईडिया लिया. तुरंत सम्बंधित निकाय को कॉल करके डेट्स फाइनल किया। रिसीवर से आवाज आई आपको आज ही पंजीकरण करवाना होगा और कल से ही आपके कोर्स की शुरूवात होगी, जल्दी करियेगा सीट बहुत कम रह गयी है।  हमने जल्दी से अनु को बाइक लेके आने को बोला।  हम दोनों होंडा शो रूम पहुंचे और मेरी आईडिया अनु को बताया और वो भी शामिल हो गया।  आधे घंटे के अंदर हमारा पंजीकरण होगया और हमें एक बुकलेट दी गई रटने के लिए।  

अति उत्सुक था और मन में थोड़ा भय भी, क्यों की अगले १२  दिन मेरे जिंदगी के ऐसे छण बिताने जा रहे थे जो पहले कभी एक्सपीरियंस नहीं किया था ।  

अगले दिन सुबह ७ बजे अनु और मैं ऑफिस पहुंचे, शायद थोड़ी जल्दी पहुंच गए, ४ लोग पहले से बैठे हुए थे। आधे घंटे में ऑफिस का वेटिंग रूम भर चूका था, सीट के एब्सेंस में कई लोग खड़े थे, करीबन २०० लोग होंगे मेल, फीमेल और बुजुर्ग मिलाके। सब के हाथ में कम से कम एक बैग या एक सूटकेस था और आपस में खुसूरफुसुर कर रहे थे। समय होचुका था, ऑफिसर ने आके अनाउंसमेंट किया : सबको हॉल की तरफ जाना है, शांत रह कर आचार्य (गुरु) जी से १ घंटे का प्रवचन ग्रहण करना है।  प्रवचन के बाद सबको बैच में बांटा गया, हर बैच को विंगर में बैठने की सलाह दी गयी। विंगर एक एक करके रवाना हो रहे थे। वैसे ही हम भी एक विंगर में बैठके रवाना हो गए।  

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अभी तक हमें बताया गया था की हमें १० दिन कंटिन्यू बगैर बोले ध्यान करना है, हम धर्मश्रृंगा के ओर प्रस्थान कर रहे थे।  काले बादल छाए हुए थे और जैसे ही शिवपुरी पहाड़ों पे चढ़ना शुरू किया वैसे ही बारिश होने लगी, यह शुभ घडी का संकेत था हमारे लिए।  

गंतव्य पे पहुंचते ही हमने चेक इन किया, मोबाइल फ़ोन जमा करना पड़ा और हमें अकोमोडेशन के रेगुलेशंस बताया गया।  अनु का रूम मेरे रुम से काफी दूर आलोट किया गया था।  घने जंगल के बिच में, मध्य पहाड़ी से सारा काठमांडू का नजारा दिखता था, हल्की बारिश और ऐसे मौसम में किसका मन शांत न हो। ऐसा लग रहा था की आधी मोक्ष की प्राप्ति कोर्स सुरु होने से पहले ही मिल गई।  शाम के डिस्कोर्स में १० दिन की रूटीन बताया गया और कंसल्ट करने के लिए एक आचार्य आल्लोट किये गए।  अगले १० दिनों तक किसी को कुछ बोलने की इजाजत नहीं थी, ना ही कोई इशारा करने की।  किसी को कुछ दिक्कत हो तो वालंटियर्स को इन्फॉर्म करने को बताया गया।  रात को ९ बजे विश्राम करने को अनुमति दी गई| 

सुबह ४ बजे मॉर्निंग बेल बजा, आधे घंटे में रेडी हो कर मैडिटेशन हॉल जाना था।  सबको बैठने के लिए सीट मिली हुई थी।  कोर्स का पहला दिन था, सारे शांत थे, बोलता था तो सिर्फ ऑटोमेटेड स्पीकर्स।  वो कुछ समय इंस्ट्रक्शंस देता और हम उसके बताए हुए कमांड्स को प्रैक्टिस करने को ट्राई करते| यह प्रक्रिया दिन भर कंटिन्यू रहता था।  करीब ११ बजे अपने आचार्य के साथ कंसल्ट करने की परमिशन थी जिसमे हम अपना एक्नॉलेजमेंट देते थे और डाउट्स क्लियर करते थे। सुबह आधे घंटे का ब्रेकफास्ट, दोपहर को डेढ़ घंटे का लंच और शाम को आधे घंटे का डिनर छोड़ कर हर एक डेढ़ घंटे में ५ मिनट की ब्रेक मिलता था।  शाम को साढ़े ८ बजे गुरु जी का डिस्कोर्स अटेंड करते थे।  बाकि सारा समय सुबह ४ से लेकर रात को ९ बजे तक सब्जेक्ट की प्रैक्टिस करते रहते थे।  पुरे कोर्स को २ सब्जेक्ट में डिवाइड किया गया था : पहला ३ दिन १ सब्जेक्ट पे प्रैक्टिस किया और दूसरा बाकी के ७ दिन।

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धीरे धीरे दिन बीत रहा था, रोज कुछ ना कुछ सीखने को मिल रहा था, ऐसा लग रहा था ज्ञान के सागर मे तैर रहा हूँ| बहोट आनंद आ रहा था| परंतु कुछ लोग परेशान होने लगे थे, मेरे रूममेट्स रात होते ही बाते करने लगते थे और अब वो शैयाँ कुछ हद तक टूट चुका था. हमने भी एक बार प्रयास किया अनु से बात करने का लेकिन वॉलंटियर्स ने माना कर दिया| बहुत को वॉर्निंग मिलने लगी थी, इससे पता चल रहा था की इंसान की बोलने की आदत बहुत बुरी तरह से लगी है और यह आसानी से नही छूट सकती|

पाँचवा दिन था, सुबह सुबह 5-7 लोग गुरु जी के साथ परामर्श कर रहे थे| हमारे बाद गुरु जी ने एक दोस्त से पूछा: शरीर मे कुछ फील हो रहा है या नही? जवाब था: मैइ मेरे शरीर के इक्कीससो अंगो को फील कर रहा हूँ| यह सुन के दूसरा दोस्त हसने लगा और उसकी हसी देख कर हम सब भी हसने लगे और गुरु जी भी| गुरु जी ने हसी रोकने को कहा, और हसने का बेफायदा भी बताया, सब लोग शांत हो गये सिवाए मेरे और वो जिसने शुरूवात की थी| गुरु जी ने बाहर जाने की सलाह दी , हम बाहर जा कर खूब हसे, हसी रुकने के बाद वापस अपनी सीट पर जा कर बैठ गये| उस रात मैने बहुत सोचा , सोचते सोचते अचानक से आँखो से आँसू टपकने लगे| अजीब सी अनुभूति होने लगी और एहसास हुआ की मुझे इस तरह नही हसना चाहिए था, बहुत बुरा फील हो रहा था| साथ ही साथ ऐसा भी लग रहा था जैसे मुझे आज कुछ कीमती चीज़ मिली हो जो बहुत कम लोगो को मिलती है|

वो चीज़ जिसे मैने बरसो पहले खो दिया था. लग रहा था अंधेरे जीवन मे सूरज की पहली किरण पड़ी हो| ज्ञान के सागर मे रो रहा था लेकिन खुशी के आँसू टपक रहे थे, अपने आप को कोसने लगा, ये ज्ञान मुझे पहले क्यूँ नही मिला, पहले क्यूँ नही मिला|

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दशवा दिन मेलमिलाप वाला दिन था, सब लोग आपस मे बाते कर सकते थे, सुख दुख की बाते बता सकते थे| सबके चेहरे पे खुशी की रौनक थी, 9 दिन बाद जो खुलके बात करने को मिला था| आपस मे सारे पहचान कर रहे थे और अपने एक्सपीरियेन्स बाँटने मे लगे हुए थे, कोई बुक्स खरीदने मे व्यस्त था तो कोई फोटो खिचने मे| कोई खुश था वंडरफुल एक्सपीरियेन्स को पाकर तो कोई बस यूँ ही|

अगले दिन सुबह वीपास्साना कोर्स का अंतिम अनुभूति करा और 9 बजे चेक आउट करके अनु और मै घर लौट आए|

कहते है हिंदू कोई धर्म नही, यह जीने की एक सैली है वैसे ही वीपास्साना भी जीने का तरीका सिखाती है, खुश रहना सिखाती है, जी हाँ खुश रहना सिखाती है| यह कोर्स में 95% प्रॅक्टिकल करवाया जाता है| इसके रोज अभ्यास करने से नैतिक ज्ञान की प्राप्ति होती है, समाज, देश और संसार को सही राह पे चलना सिखाती है. यह आज मे जीना सिखाती है|

कृपया गलत का समर्थन ना करे।

कुछ लोग राजनितिक पार्टिया के समर्थन / प्रशंसा ऐसे करते है  मानो की ओ अपने मामा के घर के सोने की हाथी हो। चाहे ओ कांग्रेस हो या कॉम्युनिस्ट। यह लोग एक दूसरे की खिचाई करने में कोई भी कसर नहीं छोड़ते। मेरे भेजे में एक बात नहीं घुश पाती है की यह लोग किसी भी पार्टी के लिए मरने मिटने के लिए क्यों तैयार होजाते है।

यह लोग खिचाई करने में उन्हें भी नहीं छोड़ते जो निस्पच्छ हो और अपने आपको साबित करने के लिए सारे के सारे उदहारण रट लेते है मानो की किसी भी समय परीछा देनेके लिए तैयार।

ताजुब की बात यह है की यह लोग सालो साल गिनवादते है, रात दिन बहस करने में लगादेते है और परिणाम वही आती है जो आप देखते आरहे है। गरीबी, शोषण, अन्याय, भ्रष्टाचार, निरक्षरता, जातिवाद, बेरोजगारी, भूखमरी, प्रदुषण, रोग, वामपंथी, उग्रवाद, दंगे, आदि इत्यादि। इन्हे लगता है की राजनितिक पार्टिया इनके मसीहा है जो सत्ता पे आते ही छण भर में सारे के सारे समस्या दूर करदेगी। यह खुसिया ऐसे ब्यक्त करते है जैसे की साले की बरात में जारहे हो जब इनकी पार्टी की जित होती है।

हम अधिकार और कर्तब्य की बाते भी करते है, हां सिर्फ बातें करते है। हम ना तो अपना कर्तब्य निभाते है नतो अपना अधिकार की जिक्र करते है।  इस लेख से हम यह बताना चाहते है की आप कोई भी पार्टी से जुड़े रहे, उसकी तहे दिलसे स्तुति करिये, हमें कोई दिक्कत नहीं है। परन्तु एक बात हमेशा ध्यान रखिएगा की आपकी पार्टी अगर सही कररहा है तो ठीक है मगर किसी भी तरीके से सत्ता की गलत उपयोग करे तो उसके खिलाफ जरूर आवाज उठाये नाकि उसको मसीहा के तरह पुजते रहे।  गलत और सही परखे और गलत के खिलाफ सारे जनता मिलकर १ आवाज उठाये ताकि समाज के जितने भी कुरीतिया है वह गायब होजाये। हां, यह मुमकिन है और यह तब मुमकिन होगा जब हम आपस में ना लड़े, धैर्य बनाए रखे और हम सब आपस में मिलकर अच्छा कार्य करे।

नव वर्ष २०७३ एक सिख

भगवान – (भुमि, गगन, वायु, अाग, निर)
इन पाच तत्व से बना है भगवान, इनही तत्व से बना है मनुष्य ।
हम ताे निकले थे भगवान के खाेजी मे, यह ताे है हमारे अन्दर ।
पुजते है हम ब्रम्हा, विष्णु, महेश काे, देख पाया इन्हे कभी नही ।
कहते है इन्हाेने बनाया हमें, आया मैं माँ के कोख से।
उन्होंने कहा वो बसते है मंदिरों में, हम यही मानते चले आये।
जब है भगवान अपने अंदर, भटक रही है ये संसार क्यों?

नव वर्ष २०७३ का सबको हमारी ओर से शुबकामनाए। सदैव खुस रहे।

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